When one of the parties reject the opportunity to be reconciled to God's TRUTH (Jesus, mercy, forgiveness and love) because they want the world's perspective of truth and it's system of harsh justice to rule their diffferences. Then the other party as well has to enter into the world's system to bring solution to the conflict. The only difference here is that the person that rejected the opportunity to take the conflict to the saints for reconciliation has dared God as it states in 1 Corinthians 6:1 and defrauded his brother of the justice of God. and lost the GRACE of God and His mercy and God actually intervines and judges the unbelieving person as if he were his enemy.
Let's be Reconcilers and not Judges
The 7 Steps of Discipline that will produce
ReplyDeleteRestoration & Revitalize the Relationship.
Requirements of a relationship: This is where we define the boundaries of relationships in the 7 areas or our lives. When someone goes outside of what is required of the boundaries, then we perceive it or call it sin or missing the mark in our relationship. The mark can be predetermined or determined as part of a process in developing relationship or it may be determined on the spot or at a particular moment in the process. However the boundary that is placed should not be the focal point. There is always a point where the relationship reaches a boundary of up to here and a line is drawn in the sand. If one crosses the line then we have separation and we step into a conflict zone and the requirement of going through the process of making changes and being restored under different circumstances and a more defined relationship. Many times that process is short, but sometimes it is a long process that requires years for God to make it happen.
• This is where our faith in the goodness of God can make it happen. Romans 2:4 Or despisest thou the riches of his goodness and forbearance and longsuffering; not knowing that the goodness of God leadeth thee to repentance?
• This is where our faith in the mercy of God can take over. Romans 9:16 So then it is not of him that willeth, nor of him that runneth, but of God that sheweth mercy.
• This is where we make sure we start exercising mercy to others if we aren’t doing it already and activate or put in motion the spiritual realm on our behalf so that restoration can take place one day. Matthew 5:7 Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy.
Matthew 18 outlines the steps of faith to take to be able to activate the discipline of God because of a perceived sin in a relationship. I will use the word perceived sin to not accuse, judge nor condemn either side since it could be that God is working on both sides of the relational conflict. Many times in relationship counseling we find both sides thinking that the other side has sinned or missed the mark. The discipline of God is not punishment even though we might feel punished or even condemned and we might feel that we are punishing the other person. The discipline has a higher faith purpose which is outlined in Hebrews 12:10-11 For they verily for a few days chastened us after their own pleasure; but he for our profit, that we might be partakers of his holiness. Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.
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The seven steps to a complete and prosperous reconciliation
ReplyDelete1- Requirements, Restrain & Restrict
2- Remorseful
3- Repentance & Redeemed before God
4- Reformation & Renovation
5- Reconciliation
6- Restoration & restitution
7- Rebuild, Revitalize & Regenerate
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